Is This Still Working for You?

I caught myself thinking something the other day:

Why am I still doing this this way?

There wasn't anything particularly wrong.

Nothing had fallen apart. There wasn't some dramatic moment that forced me to reconsider everything. It was much less exciting than that.

I was simply doing something the way I had always done it.

And for whatever reason, this time I noticed.

I think we all have things like this in our lives.

The routines we don't really think about anymore. The commitments that somehow became permanent. The way we structure our mornings, our weekends, our workdays. The things we say yes to because we've always said yes to them.

Even the expectations we carry about who we're supposed to be and what we're supposed to handle.

At one point, many of these things probably made sense.

Maybe they worked beautifully.
Maybe they helped us through a particular season.
Maybe they were exactly what we needed then.

But then isn't necessarily now.

And sometimes we continue living according to an old rhythm simply because we haven't stopped long enough to notice that we've changed.

Creating Margin Isn't Always About Doing Less

We've been talking this month about creating more margin in our lives.

More breathing room.  More space to actually experience our days instead of racing through them.

And when we hear create margin, it's easy to think we need to start eliminating things.

Clear the calendar.
Say no more often.
Get rid of something.

Sometimes that's exactly what we need.

But I think there's another place to begin.

Notice.

Before changing anything, notice what you're doing automatically.

What takes your time?
What takes your energy?
What have you decided is simply the way things are?

And then ask one surprisingly powerful question:

Is this still working for me?

Not:

Is this bad?

Not:

Should I be doing something better?

Not even:

How do I fix this?

Just...

Is this still working for me?

Because something doesn't have to be terrible for you to decide it no longer fits.

We Outgrow Things

We expect to outgrow clothes.
We expect children to outgrow toys and bedrooms and routines.
We understand that businesses change, families change, relationships change and seasons change.

But sometimes we forget that we change, too.

What worked five years ago may not work today.  What you once had the energy for may require more from you now.  Something that once brought you joy may have quietly become an obligation.  A routine that once created stability may now feel restrictive.  And something you once believed you had to do may turn out to be something you've simply continued doing.

There's nothing wrong with that.

We create rhythms because rhythms make life easier. We don't want to renegotiate every decision every day.  But every once in a while, it's worth checking in.

Because a rhythm can have served you well and still be ready to change.

That doesn't make the old rhythm wrong.

It simply means you're paying attention to the life you're living now.

One Intentional Step

This week, don't overhaul anything.  Don't reorganize your calendar.  Don't make a giant list of everything you need to change.

Just notice one thing you do automatically — a routine, commitment, expectation, habit or even a way of thinking.

And ask:

Is this still working for me?

You don't even have to have the answer yet.  The noticing is enough.  Because sometimes creating margin doesn't begin by clearing everything away.  Sometimes it begins by realizing that you have a choice.

Community Reflection

Is there something in your life you've continued doing simply because you've always done it that way?  

And if you gave yourself permission to reconsider it, what might you do differently?

I'd love to hear what comes up for you.
You don't have to overhaul your life this week.
You don't have to find a better system or suddenly become someone different.

You can simply pay attention.

Because sometimes a little more breathing room begins with one quiet realization:

I don't have to keep doing this the same way just because I always have.

Maybe that's where a new rhythm begins.

Until next time...

Grant yourself a little grace.
Trust yourself a little more.
And take one intentional step.

Be well,
Mary-Anne