Sunday, May 25, 2025

Nervous System Reset: Simple Daily Practices to Soothe Stress and Restore Energy

Even after stepping away from my screens, I noticed something: my body still felt tense. My jaw clenched. My shoulders were tight. My breath was shallow.

I had done the digital detox—but my nervous system hadn’t caught up yet.

That’s when I began to explore the power of nervous system regulation, and how these gentle tools could help me feel truly calm, connected, and whole again.


Why the Nervous System Matters

Your nervous system is like your body’s internal control center. It processes everything from stress and anxiety to rest and relaxation.

When it’s in balance, you feel grounded, safe, and energized. But when it’s dysregulated—often due to chronic stress, trauma, or overstimulation (like too much tech!)—you can feel anxious, irritable, exhausted, or checked out.

Understanding how to care for your nervous system is one of the most powerful forms of self-care.


Signs Your Nervous System Needs Support

  • Constant tension or tightness in the body

  • Trouble sleeping or unwinding

  • Easily overwhelmed by noise, lights, or stress

  • Mood swings or emotional reactivity

  • Difficulty focusing or "shutting off your brain"


3 Daily Practices to Reset Your Nervous System

Here are three simple yet powerful practices you can begin today:

  1. The 4-7-8 Breath
    Inhale for 4 counts, hold for 7, exhale for 8. This signals safety to your brain and helps reset your vagus nerve, which plays a key role in relaxation.

  2. Vagus Nerve Massage
    Gently massage behind your ears, down your neck, or hum for 30 seconds. These stimulate the vagus nerve and shift you out of fight-or-flight mode.

  3. Body Tapping or Shaking
    Lightly tap or shake out your limbs to discharge built-up tension and energy. This somatic release helps you feel more embodied and calm.


Bonus: Nature & Nervous System Healing

Even 10 minutes outside can work wonders. Nature is a natural co-regulator. Place your bare feet on the earth, look up at the sky, or simply breathe deeply under a tree. You’ll feel the shift.


Try This Journal Prompt

"What does safety feel like in my body? What practices help me return to that space?"

Let this prompt guide your healing. Journaling after nervous system practices helps anchor the calm.


Final Thoughts

So often, we think stress is all in our minds. But our bodies hold the key to healing. When you support your nervous system, you create a foundation for clarity, connection, and deep calm.

You don’t need hours of free time or a retreat in the mountains. Just a few mindful minutes each day can help you reconnect to peace—from the inside out.

Here's to steady breath, soft shoulders, and nervous system ease.

Be well,
Mary-Anne 

Digital Detox: Reclaiming Presence in a Hyperconnected World

It started with a simple scroll...

I was sitting on my back porch one Saturday morning, tea in hand, the birds singing in that way they do when you're lucky enough to stop and listen. I had planned to journal and spend a few peaceful moments connecting inward before my day began.

But before I even opened my notebook, I reached for my phone—just to “check something quickly.” Thirty-five minutes later, I had no idea what I even set out to check. I’d gone down the rabbit hole of texts, social media, emails, and news alerts. I looked up, and the birds had stopped singing—or maybe I’d just stopped hearing them.

That moment was a wake-up call.


The Hidden Toll of Digital Overload

We live in an age of constant connection, where every ping, ding, and scroll demands our attention. While technology brings amazing convenience, it also quietly erodes our peace.

Studies show that excessive screen time can increase anxiety, disturb sleep, and reduce our capacity to be present with ourselves and others. It’s no wonder so many of us feel perpetually distracted and mentally exhausted.


What Is a Digital Detox?

A digital detox is the intentional act of taking a break from digital devices—especially social media, smartphones, and computers—to reduce stress, increase presence, and reconnect with what really matters.

This doesn’t mean you have to go live in the woods or throw your phone in a lake. It’s about mindful boundaries and small shifts that can help you reclaim balance.


How a Digital Detox Can Help You Feel More Calm & Centered

  • Improved mental clarity and focus

  • Deeper sleep and rest

  • More meaningful conversations and connection

  • Reduced anxiety and FOMO (fear of missing out)

  • Increased creativity and personal insight


Simple Steps to Try a Digital Detox This Week

  1. Start with One Tech-Free Hour a Day
    Choose an hour when you’re typically online (like after dinner) and make it screen-free. Read, take a walk, stretch, or journal instead.

  2. Create a Tech-Free Morning or Evening Routine
    Don’t start or end your day with a screen. Give your nervous system space to reset.

  3. Turn Off Non-Essential Notifications
    Most alerts can wait. Reclaim your focus by silencing the digital noise.

  4. Designate a Tech-Free Zone
    Make your bedroom, dining area, or porch a phone-free zone for more mindful connection.

  5. Take a Nature Break Instead of a Scroll Break
    Go outside, feel the sun, breathe deeply, and reconnect to the moment.


What You Might Discover

When I started unplugging for even short stretches, something surprising happened. I felt more me. I was calmer, more inspired, and better able to hear my own inner voice.

Sometimes, we don't realize how much energy digital input steals until we stop letting it in.


Try This Journal Prompt

“When do I feel most present and peaceful? What changes can I make to protect those moments?”

Write about this after a short digital detox—you may be surprised by what you uncover.


Final Thoughts

You don’t need to disappear offline forever to feel calm again. Just a few mindful boundaries can help you reconnect with yourself, your loved ones, and the simple joys of daily life.

It’s not about restriction—it’s about reclamation.

Here’s to less scrolling… and more living.  It's well worth it!

Be well,
Mary-Anne

Sunday, May 11, 2025

On this Mother's Day - For those of you who are missing your mom and the time you use to spend, as I am missing my own mom...

Reposting this from a couple of years ago, since today I’m feeling especially nostalgic and deeply missing the woman who shaped the person I am. My mom is the reason behind the strong, fun, and spirited woman I’ve become. She taught me how to embrace life with joy, even while handling responsibilities, and how to focus on living fully instead of getting stuck in the struggles. I’m endlessly grateful for her love, wisdom, and example. 

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Love, Loss, and the Timeless Power of Remembering the Good Times:  

Today I find myself reflecting on the love and life of my mom, "G-ma" - she would have turned 94 today, August 5th.  She was absolutely amazing!  The strongest woman I ever knew, spunky AF and was beautiful inside and out.  Although I miss my #errandswithgma days, I realize how very luck I am to have been gifted spending so much time with her right up 'til the end.  For those who have loved and lost, I hope you find solace in the words you read below...

Introduction:

In the journey of life, there are few emotions as profound as love and loss. These two powerful forces shape our existence, leaving indelible imprints on our hearts. Amidst the inevitable pain and sorrow that accompany loss, we find solace and healing in cherishing the beautiful memories and the good times shared with those we hold dear. This article delves into the profound connection between love, loss, and the healing power of reminiscing about the cherished moments that live on forever in our hearts.

Love: The Foundation of Life's Tapestry

Love is the essence of life's tapestry, interweaving the threads of compassion, empathy, and affection. Whether it be the love between partners, family members, or close friends, it is the force that binds us together, offering support and joy. Love brings laughter to the darkest of days and gives us strength during life's trials. It is a gift that enriches our lives and makes the world a more compassionate place.

Loss: The Bitter Reality

Alas, life is a delicate balance of joy and sorrow, and loss is an inevitable part of the human experience. When we lose someone dear to us, whether through death or the end of a relationship, grief and pain can engulf us. It is during these times of sorrow that we are confronted with the fragility of life and the profound impact our loved ones have on us.

Remembering the Good Times: Healing Through Nostalgia

While the pain of loss may seem unbearable, it is crucial to remember that love endures beyond the physical presence of a person. One of the most powerful tools in healing from loss is the ability to reminisce about the good times shared with those we have lost. By revisiting cherished memories, we keep the essence of our loved ones alive within us.

Reminiscing about the good times allows us to:

1. Celebrate the Beauty of Shared Experiences: Remembering the laughter, adventures, and tender moments shared with our loved ones brings joy and gratitude for the time we had together.

2. Find Comfort in Nostalgia: Nostalgia is a balm for the wounded soul. The memories of love and joy we hold dear offer comfort in times of grief and solace in our darkest hours.

3. Keep Their Legacy Alive: As we remember the positive impact our loved ones had on our lives, we perpetuate their legacy, ensuring that they live on in our thoughts and actions.

4. Learn Valuable Lessons: Reflecting on the good times can also help us glean important life lessons from our experiences with loved ones, guiding us to be better individuals.

Conclusion:

Love and loss are interconnected threads in the tapestry of life. As we navigate the complexities of grief, the memories of the good times become a lifeline, providing solace and healing. Though we may feel the pain of loss, the beauty of love is that it transcends the boundaries of time and space. It is in remembering the good times that we find strength to move forward, carrying the legacy of our loved ones in our hearts.

In times of sorrow, let us take refuge in the memories, embrace the love, and celebrate the profound impact of those we have lost. For it is in the enduring power of love that we find solace, hope, and the courage to face life's uncertain journey.












Originally Published on 8/5/23 7:06 PM - her birthday two years ago...

Sunday, May 4, 2025

If You're Not Having Fun, It's Time to Change Something

Life is a journey—sometimes wild, sometimes winding—but at its core, it’s meant to be lived and enjoyed. Yes, there will be challenges and responsibilities, but joy should never be a rare guest in your story. If you're not having fun or feeling inspired, that’s your cue: it’s time to pause, reflect, and consider a change.

The older I get, the more I come to cherish life—not just in the big milestones, but in the quiet, everyday moments. This sense of appreciation has only grown stronger as I’ve witnessed people I know face illness or lose loved ones—sometimes unexpectedly, and other times far too soon. It has deepened my gratitude for every precious minute we’re given.

Life Is Meant to Feel Alive

From ancient philosophers to modern thought leaders, the pursuit of happiness has been a timeless aspiration. But in the whirlwind of daily life, it’s easy to forget: joy isn’t optional—it’s essential. When your days start to feel like a loop of monotony, stress, or disconnection, it’s a sign that something needs to shift.

Why Does the Fun Fade?

Here are a few common culprits:

  • Falling into Routine: Predictability can be comforting, but too much of it can dull your spark.

  • Living Inside the Lines: Fear and comfort zones keep us from growth, excitement, and the unknown adventures that ignite our soul.

  • Following Others’ Scripts: Society, family, or peers may influence you to chase goals that aren't yours.

  • Negative Thinking: A critical mindset makes joy harder to recognize—even when it’s right in front of you.

  • Neglecting Yourself: When self-care is sidelined, joy has less room to thrive.

How to Reclaim Your Joy

If the fun is gone, you don’t have to keep trudging along. Here's how to shift gears and start living with more lightness:

  1. Get Honest with Yourself: What’s not working? What does light you up? Reconnect with your passions.

  2. Shake Things Up: Try something new—big or small. New experiences open the door to new energy.

  3. Create Meaningful Goals: Find purpose-driven goals that align with who you are—not who you think you're supposed to be.

  4. Train Your Brain for Positivity: Practicing gratitude and presence helps rewire your perspective toward joy.

  5. Build a Joy-Filled Circle: Surround yourself with people who uplift you and celebrate your growth.

  6. Take Care of You: Nourish your body, mind, and spirit. Rest, play, move, breathe.

  7. Celebrate the Little Things: Progress is progress. Small wins matter and deserve your attention.

Joy is Contagious

When you prioritize your own joy, something magical happens—it spreads. Your energy uplifts others. Your courage gives people permission to chase their own happiness. One shift can create a ripple effect that goes far beyond you.

A Final Reminder

You are not stuck. You are not powerless. And it is never too late to rewrite your story. If you're not having fun, don't wait for permission—change the narrative. You deserve a life that feels good on the inside, not just one that looks good on the outside.

So go on—make a change, take the leap, and let joy lead the way.

Need a little assistance - let me know and we can find that joy together...

Be well,
Mary-Anne

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